But my mullet-haired friend was different. And this is why he was a great demonstration of communication, and his team did the best out of any. Specifically, he did three things: 1) He was driven to accomplish the goal, 2) He listened to his teammates, and 3) He conveyed his message clearly.
Be Driven to Accomplish Your Goals
In order to be a good communicator you must first understand your own goals – what vision are you trying to communicate? A good athletic director, coach, or leader of any kind has a clear understanding of what their vision is.
To establish a clear vision, it is helpful to ask yourself these questions:
All these coaches have taken time to think through their vision, their goals, and are driven to stop at nothing to accomplish them.
Listen to Your Team
It’s easy to think of communication as the way you are going to talk to your team. But there is a reason grandma told you that “You have two ears and one mouth”. A team who feels heard is more likely to be bought into the vision.
A leader who listens is one who will build trust, vulnerability, and buy-in with their team. This will allow the entire team to be on board with the vision, driven to accomplish the goals set ahead of them.
Convey Your Messages Clearly
A strong vision and good listening skills are useless unless you can provide your team with a roadmap to get to where you want to go. This is where the talking side of communication comes in.
In my communication activity, “Got your back”, my athletes had to clearly tell each other what to draw. Saying, “draw a circle” wasn’t good enough. How big is the circle? What part of the paper should it go in? Should I leave room for something to go in it?
Instead, the athletes learned a critical skill of being clear with their message – something adults often forget. We’ll tell our team: “I want to see you improve your performance.” But how? What specifically do they need to improve? What areas are they doing well and shouldn’t change?
That being said, everyone is different. There is no “one size fits all” approach to communication. One thing is certain, everyone wants to be respected.
I want to take a second to mention one more thing…
A conversation around communication can send bells ringing in your ears saying “I’ve heard all of this before!” But let me ask you this… why do you think it’s talked about so much?
I’ve seen first hand the way athletes can be transformed just from one conversation with their coach about why they made the decision they did. Instant confidence can result. Obviously it’s important to be conscious of what and how we are saying things, but the effects can be significant.
So even if you feel like you communicate better than anyone you know, keep being a lifelong learner. There’s always more to learn or something new to take away.
My mullet-haired friend did this. Unlike the others, he knew the activity would be challenging. But rather than give up and get frustrated, he talked his way through it, being patient with his teammates and persevering until the end. It makes me realize that there is something we can always learn, even from 9-year-old kids with great hair.
I like to break this down into a clear roadmap – outcome, performance, and process goals. Start with the outcome goal: what is the big time thing you want to accomplish? What does success mean to you? Next, look at what performance objectives need to be hit in order to get there. Finally, look at what needs to happen every single day in order to get there. These are your process goals. You should have anywhere from 3-5 of these to focus on each and every day.
There’s a variety of ways to collect feedback, and you do need to find the one that works best for you and your team. That being said, we’ve found there to be the most success in getting quality feedback when the method is anonymous, easy to access, and simple to complete. See an example of the way we collect athlete feedback in our platform.
Communication! This is a major first step. Trust requires vulnerability as well. Developing a mutual respect in which both parties feel they can be vulnerable with one another is the foundation for trust. But you can’t just expect it from your athletes or team members, it has to come from you as well.
Bailey is the CPO for Axon Athletics. She is also a Certified Mental Performance Consultant through the Association for Applied Sport Psychology. During her time as a college athlete, she captained the varsity hockey team at Bethel University. Following graduation, she completed her masters degree in sport and performance psychology from California Baptist University.
1. Pictures of Marty McSorley’s mullet
2. Interested in the “Got Your Back” activity. Click here for this link.
3. Like many coaches … I hear and see all.
4. I highly recommend “Toughness.” You can find it on Amazon here.
5. Learn more from Coach K regarding Values Based Leadership
6. Read PJ Fleck’s book, “Row the Boat.” You can find it on Amazon here.
7. Renukadevi, D. (2014). The role of listening in language acquisition: the challenges & strategies in teaching listening. International Journal of Education and Information Studies, 4(1), 59-63.
8. Learn more about being a good listener here.
9. Read more on setting clear expectations with your team here.